Let me tell you what forced separation feels like

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Nicole Braun.

 
The images of immigrant children in cages are incredibly painful to digest.
Still, many people seem to forget that the U.S. has a long track record of forcibly separating families, whether it was African Americans during slavery, the Japanese during World War II, Native Americans during colonization, or poor children whose “unfit” single mothers have lost custody today.
Another common way families are forcibly separated? Juvenile detention.
Tens of thousands of teens and pre-teens — most often the poor and people of color are locked up in substandard, often privatized penal facilities. Children who go through these forced family separations often wind up experiencing trauma, grief, shame, and dehumanization.
The sad reality is incarceration rates are on the rise alongside economic inequality, and children aren’t exempt. Quite often, the only crime these children have committed is that they’re from vulnerable families or suffering from mental health issues.
My son and I personally experienced this.
My son became severely depressed around the time he turned 13. I was a single mother teaching as an adjunct, making less than $20,000 a year, so the treatment he needed wasn’t available to us.
My son got into the criminal “justice” system for the initial petty crime of stealing a pair of sneakers, and he remained there for most of his high school years.
Like so many struggling kids, instead of getting the treatment he desperately needed, he was sent to subpar facilities that made his emotional pain worse. He received no real therapy, and they often refused to give him his required medication or messed it up.
He began to see himself as a number, as a terrible person. I saw myself the same way, because I knew how the court system saw me—as a poor single mother with no husband and a “criminal” son.
From the time he was 14 until he was 18, he was transferred to at least 10 different facilities. I often didn’t know where, because I wasn’t notified. Despite his chronic depression, he was also put in isolation a number of times—a tactic known to increase mental suffering among adult prisoners.
At one point, they put him into an adult jail in isolation for at least a month.
As a parent, this experience was devastating and terrorizing.
My son is older now, thankfully alive, and doing the hard work of putting his life back together. “Real therapy would have been so helpful,” he told me. “So much pain could have been spared.”
“It really desensitizes people all the way around,” he said of his experience. “It makes you value yourself less and others less, too, since other people see you as a nonhuman.”
No human should ever be treated this way. But while we are wounded, we are not broken.
Social movements are gaining momentum.
Separating families due to incarceration, immigration status, mental health, and/or race and class is wrong. If the families impacted by incarceration and other traumas join together with advocates for immigrants, we can create a sea of social change.
As one of my students recently wrote, “There are more of us than them.”
Join the debate on Facebook.
Editor’s note: This article is excerpts from a longer version that can be read at https://otherwords.org/let-me-tell-you-what-forced-separation-feels-like/

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